Thursday, September 27, 2012

Blog Guelph: Love Is A Bridge

A question of love by J. Saper
A question of love, a photo by J. Saper on Flickr.

No it's not Valentines, but it is a good time to think about love. I was inspired by the responses Carolyn Riddell was receiving to her request for quotes on love for her project the ‘Love Lift’ which happens this Saturday at MacStew. I was pushed to think about it a little more. 

It means so many different things to different people at different times. Impossible to paint into a corner, defiant of clear borders, and tenuous, volatile, deep, oceanic, or subdued, soft, shored - love remains a bridge. "Love is a bridge over the sea of change" (Sri Sathya Sai Baba). It's a bridge we must cross continually in our human existence. Sometimes it’s crazy high, sometimes you fall to your knees over the dark river in crossing - but you are always walking across love's bridges. Every single day.

There was a quote posted by someone that went "and ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation" (Kahlil Gibran). How true and how devastating. 

What can we do to better measure our love for the people in our lives - and even the planet, our animals, and our community? We can start by stopping; by dropping the games. Topple your kingdom of pawns and dukes. Go on, get off the squares and out into the emotional world.

Chess is an endgame even when you're winning. 

The other thing I think we can do is to stop using the word "love" so liberally. For god's sake, I hear it all the time and it means nothing. It means nothing because it is unaccompanied by action, by responsibility.

If you want to say you love someone or that you are a lover, you better damn well start by doing something to earn that position. Love is commitment and if you walk away from commitments,
you are not a lover; you are a player. This goes for social action and community life too. If you love your community, you should not rely on others to protect and grow it. Your love makes you committed.

Having said all this, my own experience is that love can be sort of a dangerous crossing. Sometimes you can love too much. It can be hard to step away, to come off that bridge to the next journey.

But you must.

The one thing about those bridges is that you can never go back over the same one twice. You have to go forward.

"There is no remedy for love but to love more." Thoreau was a wise man. 

Love is the only thing that makes our lives valuable. So we must go on, seeking new bridges, holding out our hands to the tides and winds, accepting change, allowing hurt, knowing pain, finding old strength new, holding ourselves up even in the vulnerability of storms.

Many of you may know I'm organizing a LOVE-IN on Saturday. And I'm not just tossing that word around - I really mean it. I believe in my responsibility to artistic and creative freedom and hope you do. I hope you can come and show that your love means something. That it's not just talk. That it's not just chess…

But that you are coming to cross this bridge with me.

~Aidan M.D. Ware

~Thanks to my beautiful LOVE-IN team: Carolyn Riddell, Shannon Kingsbury, Valerie Senyk, and Pearl Van Geest.


Kathleen said...

Sadly, I will not make the love-in as I work on Saturday. What a great idea. I will be there in spirit!

Aidan M.D. Ware said...

Thanks Kathleen! That is appreciated!


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