The Long Road, a photo by chris_starscream on Flickr.
I’ve
been fooled by people, we all have.
The adage you can’t judge a book by its cover
might just seem like a flippant old saying, but it holds ages worth of truth –
particularly when it comes to people.
There are those out there in
the world who banner the warmth of flashy, charming, and spiritually seductive
frontages, causing us to want to draw near them. But I hope we’ll all take time,
before we draw too near, to consider what lies behind those cover pages and to
question whether, beyond the allure of an attractive veneer, there is a deeper story
these people have to offer. To ask if they could share it with us. And if so, to
determine if it’s a tale of compassion and love and the struggle to be a better
human being in their personal lives, and not just their public image.
Before converting ourselves spiritually
or socially as followers to any leader or to any cause, it is our
responsibility to find out for ourselves whether, behind all appearances,
behind that appealing binding, there is a story that we truly desire to believe
in, to partake in.
For how can any leader build
a community when they have not built their own lives?
I always say that trust is
earned, not owed. So at every turn of trust that you are lead to give in your
life, whether in community, or in love, I urge you to open up that book, that
person, and to really examine what’s inside. To be sure that you are investing
yourself, and aligning yourself, with authenticity - with someone who knows how
to love; to be true; to care deeply about the people in their private lives -
even before those in their public lives.
To
be sure that they would fearlessly fell ego before fall.
If in looking deeper, you do
not find the pages writ with these heartfelt and vulnerable lines, chances are
you are looking at a pretty fancy cover – a façade. A stunning lack of
authenticity. An ego. So be wary and find your distance.
Because
you know, community, and love, starts at home.
Don’t let anyone tell you
they can build something for others that they cannot build for themselves.
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